Golden Nuggets are 150 - 200 word articles that give you a powerful synopsis of the topic.
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Purpose
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Role Model
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Family
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Relationships
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Mentorship
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Single Parents
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Time Management
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Goal Setting
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Money Matters
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Friends
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Community Involvement
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Laughter
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Raising a Dreamer
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Life Log Learning
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Habits
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Character
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Conflict Resolution
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Spiritual Faith
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Organisational tools
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Tease Proofing
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Television
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Internet
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Cell Phones
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Your Teenager
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Creating a Memory
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Sportman-ship
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Manhood
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Significant Moments
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Happiness
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Supporting Others
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Fear
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Self-Esteem
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Family Unity
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Morality
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Called or Driven
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Success vs Faithful
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Free Play
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Involvement
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Wealth Creation
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Bullying
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Train a Child
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Power of a Parent
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Keys to Spiritual Growth
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Bed Wetting
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Loving your Spouse
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Wants and Needs
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Raising Responsible Kids
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Affirmation
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Persistence
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Live Life to the Full
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Master your Emotions
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Increase your Value
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Action! Just do It!
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The First Command-ment
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Trauma Debriefing
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Self-Harm
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Quantity vs Quality
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Sibling Rivalry
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Resoursefulness
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Golden Nugget – Love c
Kids spell love T-I-M-E - John Crudele
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Loving your child unconditionally is the most powerful act you can do as a parent. Strategies you can use to show your child that you love them are: Physical Touch - It's the easiest to use unconditionally, for example, a hug, pat on the back, a wrestle, a tickle, hold close or holding hands. Words of Affirmation - These are very powerful words and demonstrate affection, endearment, praise, and encouragement. Cutting, sarcastic words hurt and break down relationships. Quality Time is focused attention. It is not about the event, but about the time together. Acts of Service - Do things your children cannot do for themselves. Do things not just to please them, but to give the best for them. Gifts are meaningful and become symbols of love. They must be given with the inclusion one of the above strategies.
Challenge _________________ e
Name your children’s love language/s to your spouse.
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Forgiveness is for YOU. - Trevor Farley.
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Forgiveness is an enormous action that can have positive effects on body, mind and spirit. When you choose not to forgive, you experience heartache and bitterness which could have far-reaching consequences. Forgiveness is for YOU. Forgive the person who has wronged you and feel the release in your own life. Try these pointers: Make a positive decision to forgive. As hard as this is, making this decision in your mind is a powerful start. Desire an attitude of forgiveness. Get your heart in line with your mind. This can take time, so be patient with yourself. In time, aim to sort things out. The sooner you can sort things out the better for all parties involved. Keep short accounts. Forgive your children. Ask for forgiveness where you have wronged your child. Teach your children forgiveness by the example you set. Being unforgiving is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die.
Challenge e
Who do you need to start forgiving? Go for it!
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Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. - Robert Fulghum.
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Communication is vital for any relationship. 93% of communication is through body language and 7% through words. Therefore eye contact and a soft accepting voice tone are two important ingredients when talking with your child. As parents, we need to work on "Door openers" in communication. These are open-ended responses that do not convey evaluation or judgment. e.g. "What was the most enjoyable activity you did today?" "What was the least enjoyable moment in your day?" Share expectations for the day, one person you met or played with, talk about any changes in your daily routine. Talk at meal times, in the car, at bed time, while making dinner or discuss a television show. Ask for opinions and ideas on various topics. Try and get away from yes and no answers. If anger crops up, suggest a break. Be willing to compromise. Agree to disagree.
Challenge e
Cut out lecturing to your children, they only hear 7% of what you are saying anyway.
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Golden Nugget – Discipline c
We don't have problem children, just uninvolved, absent or uneducated parents. - Trevor Farley.
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Discipline involves the vigilant task of guiding a child from infancy to adulthood. If children feel loved, they are easier to discipline. Methods of discipline will differ from parent to parent and child to child. The following discipline principles should be carefully considered: Don't punish children for mistakes or accidents; don't break the love relationship; don't destroy the child's self-esteem; avoid dictatorial action as this encourages rebellion; apply discipline consistently; reinforce your partner's authority. Negative behaviour can be changed by: positive reinforcement like rewards or negative reinforcement -such as consequences leading to punishment like the removal of privileges. Parental emotions must be calm and low key when administering any form of punishment. This will show you are in control.
Challenge e
What part of your disciplining technique needs to be reviewed?
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Do not wish your life away, enjoy the present, it is a gift.
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Ever wished you could be a few years older or younger or wished that you were not at the place in your life where you find yourself today? We have all wished our lives away at some or other stage. Problem is, when this kind of thinking becomes the norm, we miss out on what life has to offer us today. If you don't enjoy today, you will not enjoy tomorrow. If you don't enjoy your week, you will not enjoy your month. If you don't enjoy the year, you will not enjoy your life. So it all comes down to this choice: ENJOY TODAY! When you embrace the gift of today, your children will be happier too. Time is like a River... you can't touch the same water twice. The flow that has passed will never pass again.
Challenge e
What attitude change do you need to make today, about today?
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Golden Nugget – Healthier Living c
Wellness as a lifestyle is more important than wealth.
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Nothing steals from life as much as ill health. Much is said today about a healthy, balanced lifestyle. I believe that if we got the basics correct we would be healthier and happier. Eat moderately and drink more water. Changing to healthier eating habits can help shed the unwanted kilos. Many aliments that our children suffer from are a direct result of eating incorrectly. e.g. ADHD could be exacerbated by eating too much sugar and refined foods. Exercise regularly. It's not how hard we train, but how regularly we exercise. A brisk walk for 30 minutes daily will do wonders. Rest and relax. We get too caught up with our jobs and have become workaholics at the expense of our own health and family time. Children do not want what you can buy them; they want you, your time and focused attention.
Challenge e
What is the one thing you need to change to live a healthier lifestyle?
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Is the glass half full, or is it half empty?
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Attitude is life! Two people can experience the same circumstance and yet, isn't it amazing how one person enjoys themself and the other is miserable! Teaching our children to have the correct attitude is vital to ensuring that they grow up to be happy people. The challenge as a parent is to demonstrate a positive attitude to the challenges we face in life. Is the glass half full, or is it half empty? Will this be a problem or will it be a challenge? Will this issue be a building block of growth in life or will it be a stumbling block? It is not what happens to us that is important, but how we react to what happens to us. It all has to do with our approach to the situations we are faced with daily. Attitude is life.
Challenge e
To see issues and problems as challenges and not stumbling blocks.
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Find what you love to do and you will never have to work another day.
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'He who loves work never labours' - Jim Stoval. Isn't it amazing how some people never get tired of doing the things they love? We cultivate a positive work ethic in our children by ensuring that they contribute (chores) to the running of the home. Choose a time that is convenient for the child and do general house chores as a team. (No-one likes working alone) Make it fun - one family I know made up a funny story about how the germs were screaming as they were washed off the dishes. Secondly, get children to do their homework. Factors in establishing a habit of study are: when it will be done; how long to study - age appropriate; place to study; correct study position - at a desk; no background noise. Find what you love to do and you will never have to work another day.
Challenge e
Let your passion and gifting direct your choice of occupation.
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When we can learn from our problems we begin to deal with life. When we can learn from other people's problems, we begin to master life.
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The problem most of us parents have is that we want to shelter our children from life's problems. But we need to allow our children to deal with the small problems they encounter within their homes and at school. Let them do the thinking - the problem solving. Let them have the luxury of making mistakes while the learning costs are still relatively cheap. If they cannot deal with the small problems, they will be destroyed by slightly larger ones. If they cannot solve the problems they encounter at home, how will they solve the problems after they have left home? #1. Give your children problems to solve, even if they are just fun challenges. Teach them to play chess. #2. Allow lots of free play in nature or your garden. Free play develops imagination and creativity which is essential for children to develop problem-solving skills.
Challenge e
Teach yourself and your child to play chess.
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Golden Nugget – Role Model c
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Golden Nugget – Family c
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Golden Nugget – Relationships c
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